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Alphabet Soup:

--- Quote ---Man, are jackasses like this lucky I am not a parent!
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There were moments that made it all worth it...

Libertas:

--- Quote from: Alphabet Soup on December 18, 2017, 11:31:34 PM ---
--- Quote ---Man, are jackasses like this lucky I am not a parent!
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There were moments that made it all worth it...

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Of that I have no doubt.  I've had a moment or two with nieces and nephews over the years...I'm sure parents have those times 10 or more.  But stuff like this instance involving young Harold would land my ass in prison...

Alphabet Soup:
My dad was a big-shot with the Boeing Company. When I was a kid we moved to Huntsville Alabama to be part of the space race. I recall an episode where he had reserved rooms for the family (all nine of us) at a five star hotel in Chicago (on the company dime). When we arrived the rooms looked like they had been closed up for the last decade.

I witnessed my father quietly corral the hotel staff - including the manager - and put the everlasting fear of Jesus into them. Mom, Gram and Grampa, and us kids stood off to the side and looked on as my father "had a discussion". We couldn't hear the words as my fathers voice was quiet and measured, but the portent was unmistakable - a course correction must happen and happen very rapidly or something unspeakable was about to occur.

For the remainder of our visit we were treated like royalty. At a very early age I learned an invaluable lesson: "Do you have to get angry to get what you want?". The answer, an answer which seems to elude many people, is no - victory goes to he that holds his temper and only exudes the aura of violent potential.

I've put that lesson into action countless times over the years, to varying degrees of success. Sometimes you eat the bear - sometimes the bear eats you. I brought it to bear several times when my kids were in school. Once when my eldest was being harassed by older kids and the teachers declined to intervene I made my entrance to the main office at the busiest time of the morning, demanding to see the principal. As the staff attempted to "handle" me I quietly let them know that we could do this the informal but cordial way or I could make a scene - either way would result in my seeing the principal.

Ushered into the principals office and pleasantries dispensed with, I outlined what the issue was and what my expectations for a quick resolution were. I immediately cut off her attempt at deflection and qualifiers and insisted that the required corrective actions be made by the school staff so that they would not have to be taken by me. I made sure that she understood that she had a choice and she held the executive chair and thus the key to success.

She (bless her pea-picking heart) made one attempt at bullying me by suggesting that an alternative option would be for her to call the police and have me arrested for various crimes against civility. I laughed and replied, "What, do you think that I'm afraid to go to jail to defend my child?".

Faced with quiet resolution, she folded and did the right thing - suspending the kid who physically assaulted and verbally harassed my daughter.

With Random things were different. Random was a live-wire. When she was fifteen she finally had enough of her mother's abuse and ran away. Eventually I persuaded her to come live with me - something that I had spent thousands of dollars trying to convince a judge to allow.

She had made such a mess of her schooling that I had to enroll her into one of those sham "Alternative Schools" - the ones where they place the insane and the criminal kids who are too dangerous for normal society.

She didn't exactly flourish there but she held her own. We were within spitting distance of the finish line (end of the semester) when she got into trouble. One of the melanin-enriched thugs threatened her with a knife - on campus. She tried to report it but was rejected by the office drones. Faced with no good choices she played the only card she had - she threatened to shoot her attacker. That earned her an immediate expulsion from school.

I tried reasoning with the system but they fell back onto their idiotic "zero tolerance" policy. I thought it curious that this policy didn't extend to the thug who initiated all of this nonsense.

The point becomes - you may not always win but you must always fight to defend.

Libertas:
A most excellent post my friend!

"...victory goes to he that holds his temper and only exudes the aura of violent potential."

I know my faults...my patience is directly related to the situation and any of the variables involved...any one of which can tilt it...but mostly the attitude of the idiot across me.  Some people you can read and know they will fold easily if confronted with any kind of resolve...others are too dense to see danger approaching and require a stronger visual cue.  The danger with me is if my temper passes the Rubicon...I tend to go a little...people I know have used terms like "nuts", "got that crazy look in the eyes"...smiling laughing while I go apesh*t seems to throw people off too...it is what it is.  A result of which I try to avoid areas/situations where my patience can be severely tested.  (A situation like Harold's would cause me to send mom in while I wait in the car!) At work can be problematic, not so much at my current posting as most people in this racket are mild/mildish...if my temper starts to rise and I can exit I exit...if not I phase out to my happy place...which is usually visualizing what could happen...

I think my father would like your father...though my father might be a bit louder and animated.  People of their generation could be violent if forced to it, but nobody held a grudge after a scrap, nobody vandalized property or went home for a gun a shot a place full of people up.  They had a code.  Their is no code today...not one our parents would recognize anyway.

I've come along a bit in controlling my temper...not as volcanic as when I was young...but if lit it can still be incendiary.

Retaining ones calm asks a lot of me...I should be your padawan in that regard!

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