He recalled one child who wouldn’t settle down, and he threatened to tape the child’s mouth. The child told him to go ahead and try.
“I went to my office, got some blue painter’s tape, came back and ripped a piece off,” he said. The kid piped down. “The parents looked at me like, ‘We’re going to try that at home.’ ”
I seem to recall a teacher getting fired for taping an unruly child's mouth shut a few years back.
We were at church a few weeks back and the toddler was misbehaving and wouldn't settle. the mother desperately tried everything to get him to quiet EXCEPT take him out. That would have inconvenienced her.
I think parents aren't teaching manners for a number of reasons. They don't know the rules of good manners themselves, they didn't think they really need to teach them because all that's important is being nice (same reason you don't need religion any more) or it's too much trouble to be that kind of parent.
When you're with your kids enough teaching manners comes easily. Sitting around the table together every night means no one wants to put up with messy, unruly kids every time. Plus from the earliest age the kids see a proper example from their parents. I never had to really teach my kids how to sit at a table because they saw it from the beginning. I have taught them things like which side of the plate a fork is placed, etc.
When my oldest two kids were preschoolers I did put them in an etiquette class. The kids in the class were darling. The boys and girls were young enough that they put their hearts into trying to be proper. The funniest day was the last day when families were invited to watch them show all they'd learned. They were to introduce properly their family members to the teacher. My oldest went to introduce her grandmother and froze after she said "Mrs.". She didn't know my mom's last name. LOL She only knew her as "grandma".
“Say the words ‘manners’ or ‘etiquette’ to kids these days, and they run the other direction,” she said. She prefers teaching the children that they are “building the brand called ‘you.’"
YES! Let's teach the kids that it's all about them.