Wish I could talk to my wife about guns. She is freaked out by them.
Had a friend whose wife was the same way. Its really a matter of exposure. We invited them up to my land and while we were there just asked if tey would like to try shooting. Wife was given the option to opt out - husband was going to do it without her. She knows me and trust me , so she decided to go. I explained the rules for taking a gun from someone else, and explained range safety protocol and used it - creating a firing line with a log, using a flag to indicate range in use, etc. - she even said she was "relieved" I was doing that ( it was mostly because her 17 year nephew from France was along) because she was afraid we were just going to be a bunch of "Yahoos" shooting into the air. She handled the 22 in the house, and got used to seeing it and touching it.
Outside I got her to fire the .22 rifle, and she even tried the AR. After all, they weren't "hers" - Then her husband started doing ride along with police, and got his CC, and took her to a couple gun shows. OF course, having her read the news each day helped as well. Once she understands the police think their job is showing up to draw the chalk outline, and that if she is alone, only she will be able to save herself, it gets easier.
A lot of people are "scared of guns" because they were indoctrinated in a public school, saw their friends reprimanded for making guns with their fingers and drawing pictures etc, and if they had liberal parents that message was reinforced at home. Are you scared of my drill? The Table Saw? The chain saw? Guns are tools, made for a specific purpose, and do a job you hope you never have to do, but the choice isn't up to you. Making her aware of her indoctrination and then having her handle a weapon in a "safe, comfortable and controlled " environment will take a lot of the fear out of it. With SoCal being the way it is now, the need for one is paramount.