My wife and I had a discussion after an acquaintance of mine was killed in a boating accident. His bass boat would run triple digits (>100 mph) and he would run it that way when ever the opportunity arose.
I asked her if a husband and father living life to the fullest, going to extremes, living for the thrill and dying in the process was selfish. She concluded that, yes, it was selfish to leave behind a wife and children with no support.