I think we ought to take Pumpkin's apology at face value.
It seems poor form to enter the room without knowing the people in it, and call someone an idiot right off the bat, even if it was misdirected. She did, after all, believe she was speaking to someone here before her error was pointed out. But to someone unaccustomed to the "culture" of web forums such as ours - particularly one as small and familiar as ours - perhaps we should give some grace, particularly in light of what seems to me to be a genuine apology after the fact.
As MnHawk pointed out, we don't often get new thoughtful members. Lately it's been penis-spam. I'd like to welcome Anna to the forum, and encourage her to chime in at her discretion.