One of my mom's friends of 30 years is a homosexual man. He remained celibate by choice as a younger man, appalled by the promiscuity and flamboyance of the homosexual "community" (God, how I hate that word when improperly used). He was around our family when I was a teenager, and there was nothing whatsoever effeminate about him. I had no idea he was homosexual until my mother revealed it to me when I was a bit older. It's only now that he's a senior citizen that he's entered into a relationship with a man, primarily for love and companionship, I would imagine - although I don't know for sure.
Guys like him are not the problem. The problem are radical Leftists who use their aberrant sexuality as a weapon against society in the service of Leftism. The perversion of society by the radical homosexuals may seem like a self-serving goal in and of itself, and to a degree it is. But the undermining of traditional values and erosion of societal institutions is the real crown jewel, and that serves Leftism. There is a reason the radical homosexuals are also Leftists. They seek the exact same thing. Radical homosexuals are inseparably partnered with the Left in the common goal of the destruction of society and its replacement with Leftism.