Update: We went again yessterday and she was happily popping of the .22 and I had my .40 necxt to her and I asked if she wanted to shoot it. I got a dirty look and a "I'LL NEVER SHOOT THAT BIG THING EVER" I backed off and a few minuted later I asked again,she agreed to one shot and that was going to be it.
She shot it and screamed which got some looks(imagine that)and she went back to the .22 and then started looking at the .40 and asked me how to hold it properly and next thing you know she was popping off the .40 for the next 100 rounds.
I think she's hooked but she wants something smaller for her so were talking .380.
This is moving right along and she'll be going to class soon.