Nice to hear from you SoT!
You are indeed in a pickle, not so long ago the questioning of orders was not just tolerated it was expected, and leaders had to adapt by giving their charges as much information as they could without prematurely disclosing details best kept compartmentalized. And the oath that each soldier, sailor, airman and marine took never used to mention POTUS, that is a relatively modern adaptation. But even still one could make an argument that the order within the current oath (the Constitution being first!) indicates where the Founders always wanted the emphasis to be - to the nation and the people within it that created the Republic in the first place. That the POTUS is CinC of the Armed Forces is obvious and legitimate, but the concept of and morals and ethics pertaining to what constitutes a "lawful order" from anyone in the chain of command has been omitted (intentionally IMO) from the training of officers and enlisted personnel. Anyone familiar with my posts on this forum know I am not liking any of the changes being imposed upon our service members, and it is more than social experimentation, it is a concerted effort to transform the services into absolute tools of the state. Part of this insidious effort counts upon those opposed to its principles in voluntarily exiting the ranks, thus speeding the transformation. But one is a true liberty-loving patriot to do? Must I impose my wishes upon them to remain in service and fight the PTBs and resist this effort? How can I do that in good conscience when senior leadership in all of the branches is not resisting this? Sadly, it is my belief that this transformation is rapidly moving toward the point-of-no-return, it may be there already, so while I am hopefull that enough liberty-loving patriots stay in service if for no other reason than to make it as hard as possible on those willing to execute horrific orders against the people of this nation should any leader issue such orders, I cannot ask them to do this against their will. And those who leave service are more than welcome in our civilian ranks...their skills will be required to protect life and liberty wherever they may be.
Good luck son, may God Bless and watch over you.